Rev. Vicky's Message July 3, 2025

As we approach another ANNIVERSARY (25 years an Independent Unity Church – can you believe it?) I once again realize how time seems to be speeding up as I become “elder.” (Not a typo – a reference to a difference between “eldering” and “aging” – that I’ll be exploring with you all in the coming weeks.) From speaking to others, I know this is a shared phenomenon!

I remember reading something recently about how experiencing more memorable events can slow down time (or at least our perception of it – which is actually the point here).  So I went looking for the reference and found a couple of articles…

The first was one in SciAm by Allison Pershall (edited by Gary Stix) that said:

“A watched pot never boils, but time flies when you’re having fun. These all-too-familiar sayings have a basis in solid science—our sense of time really does expand and contract depending on the way we experience the world around us.” https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/time-slows-down-when-we-see-something-memorable/

A second article, by Nicola Grehalt noted: “While we can’t change how fast the world turns, the good news is that there are things we can do to help slow down our perception of time and make the most of every moment.”  https://restless.co.uk/health/healthy-mind/ways-to-slow-down-time/

Grihault specifically offers 7 ways to slow down time. Here are three of her suggestions: 

1. Focus on the here and now. When we focus too much on the past or future rather than the present, time tends to fly by because we aren’t taking in our immediate surroundings. So, practicing mindfulness actually slows our perception of time because we are being present and noticing, engaging, and appreciating what’s happening NOW.

2. Try something new. According to Oliver Burkeman, author of Four Thousand Weeks*, our perception of time is largely impacted by the amount of novelty in our lives. Meaning, the more new experiences we have, the slower time seems to pass and the more we commit to memory. So, intentionally stepping out of our comfort zones and routines to try new things is a proven way to slow down time.

3. Do one thing at a time. Our brains can only successfully pay attention to one thing at a time. When we try to multi-task, time seems to speed-up because we can’t really focus and be present. This is related to practicing mindfulness. So seek to reduce distractions (like silencing phone notices). And I find making a list (so I know I won’t forget anything) can also help me focus.

The good news is that things like Celebrations do tend to be memorable and thus help to slow down our experience of time. The challenge is to do be present, appreciative and open between the anniversaries of special events…so that we more fully enjoy the entire ride we’re on!

I look forward to sharing this memorable celebration with all of you!

Blessings, Rev. Vicky